Gotta do better.

Ok, I started writing this blog as a way to release some of my thoughts and for people to get to know me. I have become lazy to it all. Like I've said in my previous blogs I am naturally lazy, sooooo when I have free time, I don't feel like doing the blog. My bestie/soror finally got a chance to read it and she likes it. She doesn't like many things so for her to say that, maybe I need to continue on with this venture.

So in the last blog, Jackson and I were on our way to Key West to visit my new and only niece (for now) and his new and only first cousin (for now). Many of you may wonder why I say only first cousin for Jackson. To sum it up..If you act like family to him then you will be included and treated as such. Honestly speaking I couldn't even tell you their names (I should be ashamed of myself, right?) Oh well, if you're mad, too bad, so sad, scratch your a** and get glad (Big Momma always said that, sitting up in her rocking chair and throwing her head back and forth to show emphasis when she said that they could scratch their a** and get glad).

Man our trip there was one for the books. So, you know it stormed a lot during March 28th-March 31st. Random: I get so tired of this this Weight Watchers notification popping up and saying that I didn't track my food today. Hell, yes I did! Uggghhhh! 

Random: I keep going back to the second paragraph wanting to change it or erase it all together because normally, I don't like to talk about negative things, but what's a blog if I don't tell you all my thoughts and feelings. 

Back to Key West: So Jackson and I are at Memphis airport and I find out that our flight was delayed due to the storm heading to Miami, where my layover was. So I'm like should I go or should I just go home. I was confused. Jackson was tearing me down and then finally they called for us. Long story short (well kinda), missed my connecting flight to Key West, had to get on stand by. Flights were delayed in Miami as well. I cried all night long at that airport. Jackson was sleepy and irritated. I called my sister crying and said, "I will never come and visit you again" Lol. I felt like my other sister because she's so dramatic and you can hurt her feelings so easy. See the pleasure about having four sisters is that none of them know who I am referring to because each of them has one or the other of those traits listed above.

We didn't make it to Key West until after midnight and we were scheduled to be there at 6:00 p.m. I did enjoy Florida though. I hated Miami and I was just in the airport. They were very rude. I will try not to fly American Airlines anymore. I can't promise that though because if I find a good price on a ticket to wherever I am going, I will take it. I like to save and count my coins. Speaking of money I am reminded of a saying, "They say money doesn't bring you happiness, I say neither does being broke......" Don't judge and it's true. Everyone has had a time when they were broke and it doesn't feel good. You don't go anywhere, gotta stay in the house so you don't run all the gas out of your car for the next coming work week. But, if you don't understand, I do. It's my life now..lol. See if you think you're broke, you won't want to spend money and it stays in your savings. That's my motto, "be broke, feel broke, act as though you're broke." Mane.. Dirt Cheap is my store!

Here's my fact: Ummm. let's see. I can't think of one now. So next time I will double up the facts!
Wait! I got one. I am 30 now! Yayyyy... Glory be to God! I am very thankful to be this age. I already find myself changing. I am changing from caring to not caring. Everything goes to the altar and it is out of my hands.


Oh Toodles,
Ash

Fresh Start Alert!

Hello Everyone!

 

First off. What a great year it has been for me. Thank you Lord for my many blessings. FYI...Every morning, I say positive declarations over my life, Jackson's life, my siblings, parents and grandparents lives. I have no worries about anything in my life..if it's for me then it's for me...if it's not then it's not. I have had some bad days, but my good days out weigh my bad.

 
Ok. I've been gone for almost two months. I do have a full time job and a full time toddler that acts older than he really is and plus I'm naturally lazy. Well when I get home, I am.  

So, Ladies, have you ever had this guy in your life that’s really nice, but it's just something about him? Well let me break him down for you. He's a teacher, he's cute, Jacks does interact with him when he's around, even though all Jacks do is lay on him while he watches T.V., I do like that he takes out time with Jacks (Ladies with a child(ren) please pay attention to how a man interacts with your child(ren) and vice versa, well I do at least) he moves furniture for me, if I buy something that needs to be put together he does it, anything minor with my car he fixes it and comes quick when I call him. The only thing is, I don't trust him nor his intentions. I know you may be thinking, you don't trust him nor his intentions, but he's around you and your child? So, let me clarify this, he is an old friend/boyfriend...Yep! Old boyfriend that I know very well. He has a past for being a ladies man (CHEATER) lol, so there's the trust and I mean his intentions. Ladies a man will always what something that he can't have. So word to the wise...keep your legs closed and yes I can talk, well at least now I can...lessons learned..lessons learned. I think I will continue to keep him around as a friend though, he doesn't come on strong, and so I can deal with that. 

 

Now, I know that I've said in my past blogs that I'm all for being single and blah blah blah, but can y'all keep a secret? Lmbo! Of course not, it's a blog! Well, Humph! So that’s my Fresh Start Alert!

And it's not the guy that's mention above! My Something New! Yep..yep..yep. I'm working it y'all! 

 

Jacks and I are heading out this weekend. To Key West that is. We'll be back next week. I will let you know how that goes later. He's a little older now so I hope this plane ride goes smoothly. We have a short layover in Miami so I shall see.

 

It's Official. Miami! Here we come! We got our tickets and we are almost ready to go!!! First girl’s trip and I’m already thinking about the next one. This was originally something to I wanted do for my 30th birthday..that is slowly approaching..now I just want to have fun.

 

Here's a Fact about me: I am very Goofy and sometimes have Paris Hilton moments, but I have no sense of humor. Very odd, right?

 

Whelp, until next time...

 

Oh Toodles,

Ash

 

Last post of January

It's been a couple of days...

I haven't been busy just lazy. My work week was a bit busy, so maybe that's where my laziness came from.

So my sister tried to "hook me up" with someone. Is that what my life has come to? Blind Dates and Hooking me up? I don't mind it, but I am not at that point of my life that I want a relationship. Just friendship is what I can offer. I don't want the drama of some men and their baggage. I am betting a million that they don't want mine either so until I get myself in order..there's no need to pursue if you want more. (This is totally off the subject, but my heater fan in my office just cut off and I just lost all train of thought. I believe it eases my mind, like having a fan on in my room all year long in order to sleep at night).

Anywho, I find myself writing more about me than Jacks and my blog url distinctly says raisingupjacks.blogpost.com. Right now I may be more entertaining. What comes to mind while I am eating this 1 strawberry special k waffle, banana, and coffee..is that Hell! I'm hungry! I'm on weight watchers and I'm losing weight though, I am trying to get back to my pre pregnancy weight of between 150-155. I can't drop less than 150 though, I start to look like a lollipop. My frame is not build for that.

By reading my blogs so far you should be able to see that my mind can be all over the place. That is actually my thought pattern. Thoughts just pop up in my mind all the time. Sometimes I act on them..sometimes I don't. I find that when I act on them people tend to think I am different or that I am a follower because I do something out of the ordinary. That's not the case at all. Believe me everything I do is all me! I just have to learn when to and when not to act on certain thoughts.

Ok Guys..read up..I have decided that after each blog I will tell you a fact about myself that some may not know.

Fact: I am not very affectionate meaning I don't care for hugging, I may hold a hand for a moment, no PDA for me, but I am very humble, thoughtful, and I always care.

I just realize in this blog entry I didn't write about Jacks..Well he's doing great and he's just curious..

 
Until next time...

Oh, take a look at the top of the page. I have some fashion links. They are my favorite fashion mags!
 

Oh Toodles,

Ash 

The Weekend is over Already...

Hi Guys!

I hope everyone had a great weekend. It wasn't long enough for me. Back at it again this morning.

Working hard tryna keep a job!

That happened to be a saying from my old boss. I was a HR Assistant for the Regional Director of Levy Restaurants @FedExForum in Memphis. Levy Restaurants is a big food and beverage company, they are located at the majority of NBA, NFL, MLB, and other professional sports arenas.  So, I got a chance to work with the Memphis Grizzlies..see them practice and all that good stuff. It was a pretty good job to have straight out of college with no HR experience, but she took me in under her wing. I was so grateful to have met her and all the experience she gave me. Which makes me more marketable with a Sociology degree. Some jobs have been in Social Services and some have been in Human Resources, but I believe that I want to stay in Human Resources. I am in it now and I am getting so much experience (I have another good boss too). I like having my own office, a set schedule, and knowing that when I am off..I'm off!

The only thing I don't like is the location, so I try to leave on the weekend as much as possible, I kinda treat this as a town I stay in, just to work. All of my friends are in Memphis area. With the exception of two, Cassandra and Julie-Ann, they live in Florida.

I plan on taking some trips to visit fam in other states this summer. I gotta get it in quick cause Jacks is free until he's 2 years old...I am very frugal (just a nice way of saying cheap)..I like money and there are two things I don't play about and that's my child and my money. I count my nickels daily.

On to the next, What to do with Jacks?

I was in the process of taking down my hair (would show you pics of this natural afro, but maybe later) and I hear this screaming, I thought it was the t.v. because I turn it up to drown Jacks out while he is in the living room turning around in circles and screaming, 'Thank you' to the top of his lungs (I know, bad mommy habits). I ask him to say thank you so much he just screams it out all the time. So I get up wondering what is going on cause he was hollering and grunting..I get to my room and see him stuck between the mattress and the wall. I laugh and say, "hold it right there, I gotta get this pic for my blog."

He was a sport, he gave me a smile in the second one. I guess he was like, 'this woman ain't gone get me out until I compromise, so here you go momma." I always have fun times with him. He gets on my nerves. My dad said yesterday, "boy by this summer Paw Paw can get you from your momma without you crying and take you with him" and I was thinking sure can..Goodbye Jacks! Holla at cha!

 

Until next time....

 

Oh Tooodddllleesss (in my Mickey Mouse voice),

 

Ash

Hiya!

 

I am back here at it again...I had court yesterday with the ex, who didn't show...figures.

Had to drive to the country hills of Mississippi on Wednesday after work and I had no service! Guess I am a day late, but not a dollar short on this blog entry.

My Wednesday was pretty mellow..dropped Jacks off at daycare..went to work..same ole same ole.

But the exciting news was that I received a text from my friend Cassandra! I've missed her so much since I left Florida. So I am planning a trip to Miami for my 30th Bday! Yayy, I turn the Dirty 30 this year. I sent her pics for Jacks, she thinks he is darling...Ummmmm..she will be very surprised when she sees him in person.

On another note...I keep meeting up or shall I say seeing this young fellow (well older than me) all the time. He is a police officer and we have about a 5-10 minute conversation some times (sometimes I just speak to him and keep it moving, he does follow me around wherever I see him at and says little things and I just smile and nod my head)..I have been known to come off stuck up, but I am totally not like that (for the record)…but you know that conversation that REAL men have to see if you are more than what meets the eye (interesting or not before they ask for your number). While a REAL woman is contemplating in their head (if he ask me for my number, will I give it to him or not?). Because, you don't have to give your number out to everyone who ask for it.

In my last relationship (when I taught I was wise) I actually became wise afterwards. I know what I am worth now. It may sound bad to some of you reading this that a woman almost 30 is just now knowing her worth, well it’s life...sh*t happens and sometimes you gotta go through bad times to know what you will or will not stand for and that’s with anyone family and friends included. I can see bulls**t so far away now and I choose not to entertain it because I have a child. A boy at that and I can't afford to have bad influences around him, especially the way society is now.

So anyway while this police officer was talking to me and speaking to Jacks..I look at Jacks to see what he was doing..he's giving this guy a side eye with his mouth turned up on one side..like he's disgusted or something...like why are you talking to us. I am just like in my head.. OMGoodness Jackson.

We get in the car and I have a talk with him and say, "Jackson, baby you can't look at people like that. Like you are disgusted with them. He may be a nice guy for mommy." He just looked at me and started laughing.

I am like boy, boy, boy...you may try to play tricks on guys I date in the future.


I don’t end these blogs well so until next time.

 

Oh Toooodlessss (in my Mickey Mouse voice)

Ash

 

 

 

 

 

 

What's up with Me..

Hello All! Welcome to my World of terrible twos at age one..Whining...Climbing on everything...Migraines..."Daddy" Diaries...Hollering No No and Stop...and a lot more...of course ME!

 
Now I am not one to put my "business" out, but it feels good to write it down. To relax, relate, release....My head rambles on and on with thoughts and topics everyday life stuff. My thoughts are out of this world.

Me Now: Divorcee, thought it would last, but got someone that...let’s just say he needs therapy and God! Which he would probably say the same for me..which I may need..Therapy that is..I have God at all times. Ummm, that's thought.

Anyway almost a year later after my full start over in life, a lot of things happened in 2013 that were the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly...and some of them were just Terrifying. I lost my Big Momma last year. My momma, my confidant, my everything...so since I can't talk to her I've decided to share my thoughts with you..

Ok..Ok..Ok..now let's get to the good stuff..my life.

Well it kinda makes me think of a quote that's says. "You never realize how boring your life is, until someone asks you what you do for fun." Ha! Hell my life isn't that boring...is it?

I went to Walmart on Saturday morning, I go early so I can beat the "Food Stamp Queens"(no pun intended)  as my Maw Maw would say...she always says the most hilarious things....I use to get them too..that's when she came up with phrase (Food Stamp Queens).. Don't you just wonder why they always have about two carts full all the time though...Anywho, I hope I don't get scrutinized for that..who cares really. So after Walmart we came home..and that was my Saturday..actually my entire weekend..my life IS boring. Wow!

 
On to Jacks. He is a rather particular human being. At 16 months he climbs the dining room chairs and sits on top of the table. He has long legs like his Maternal Grandfather not his father, he's dumpy (just threw some shade)..aww hell..

He sleep walks..he bites...he leaps..he jumps..he soars..Lol.

Anyway tomorrow will be more about him and of course ME!

Stay Tune….

 

Ohhhh Toooodlessss,

Ash